Getting a divorce can be a huge blow to your self confidence. Whether you are the man or the woman in the relationship, there is usually someone who did the leaving and the one that was left is devastated and at an all time low. How do you get back that self confidence that was ripped away when you were left?
The first step is feeling good where you are living! If you are in a home or apartment where you are miserable, then how can you ever feel better? Whether you are the one who moved or the one who stayed, if you aren’t happy in your surroundings, where you spend every day and every night, that can be a drain on your self confidence and self esteem.
The second step is to find out who you are! Make a list of all your favorite activities…a bucket list, so to speak. Write down things you didn’t or couldn’t do while you were married. DO THEM! It is time to take care of you and to take back the you that you love!!
The third step is to find your mantra! Everyone needs a mantra, a saying that gets you moving every day. Whether it is as simple as, “Today I will get out of bed and not cry” to “Acknowledge, Accept, Empower and Heal”, this is something you need to affirm to yourself every morning. Look in the mirror when you wake up and say that mantra out loud and believe it.
The fourth step is to believe in yourself! This is the toughest thing to do, especially when we are down and out. But, you are a survivor. Think of all the tough times you have endured in your life. Did you make it to the other side? Of course you did. You are still standing and you are strong. Believe it.
As you start your road to self discovery, you will slowly see that your self confidence is on the rise and there will be no stopping you from achieving, believing and empowering yourself to do or be anything you want.
Acknowledge, Accept, Empower and Heal.