A wise man once told me that he would not date anyone who wasn’t divorced. Of course, he was dating me, at least once every six weeks or so. When I asked him why, he explained that most people go through this elation period during the divorce, and then once they are divorced, they go into a depression of sorts. (Post Divorce Depression Syndrome!) He didn’t ever want to be the rebound guy. He is one of the few men I know that has been divorced for over 5 years without hitting the remarriage market.
I don’t know if I agree with him or not, but I do know that it is hard to date someone who is NOT divorced, and not because they may change their mind once the divorce is final, but because you don’t know if they are going to END up divorced.
Although you didn’t reconnect with your spouse during either a mandatory separation or a voluntary separation, does not mean that the person you are dating will not.
My advice? ASK the person you are dating, if they are separated, what their relationship is like with their spouse. ASK if they are seeing a counselor, do they have dinner or drinks together, do they still go out socially as a couple. And, if that person is cagey in their response…RUN!