Men and women can have vastly different experiences in the bedroom if either partner is only about reaching their own climax, rather than making sure both of you get there. Unfortunately, this problem lies mostly on the man, as it is just biologically simpler to reach orgasm. This puts men under pressure in society to not be that “two-pump chump” that gets laughed at in the movies. How you prevent yourself from orgasming before she does is part art and part psychology.
The go-to technique, of course is to just bombard your mind with unsexual thoughts and imagery, like sports scenery, your wrinkly old boss, or just staring off into a corner of the room. This distraction technique can definitely work, but it’s merely a temporary solution that only makes you extend the inevitable, rather than focusing on making sure your partner is pleased. Here are some better tips to keep you going and make your partner get there too.
Variations in Strokes
If your sex game just involves giving it to her as hard and strong as possible before you tap out and if she doesn’t cum before you, then “oh well”—you need to step it up. All great lovers have a mix of strokes that keep them from climaxing too early, while delivering the best combination of short, deep, fast, slow, and hard strokes to give her maximum variety.
Sure, some women prefer it hard and fast when they can get it, but that doesn’t mean they won’t enjoy a longer session that is setup to insure they reach the top of their climax every time.
The art of the Tease
A highly underrated aspect of having sex is creating a build-up of lust that can improve any man’s sex life, no matter how poor they think they are in the sack.
You know what it’s like to have a girl present herself in the most ridiculously sexy dress, seduce you with her eyes, lips, and body language, and drive you mad with dirty talk leading up to the end of the night. Some women have that power to make any man cum almost instantly.
Well, men can have that same effect on women, even if they’re not Brad Pitt.
It’s all about confidence and the art of teasing her all the way into the bedroom and keeping it going until she begs you to send her over the edge.
The best way to get better at something is through practice, right?
Well, when it comes to sex, you are best off masturbating in between sessions to practice your stamina. It might sound dumb to the average guy out there, but challenging yourself to last longer during your own jack off sessions is a way to create a habit out of staying hard longer and preventing yourself from orgasming until you are ready.
Of course, it sounds easier than it is in practice. You are used to simply getting yourself to climax as fast as possible because porn viewing is always something that is difficult to do without chance of interruption for most people. When you have the opportunity to have a long, interrupted masturbation session, use this to bring yourself to the edge of climax and just stop there and keep going again for as many times as you can, you will see an improvement in stamina and better orgasms for both you and your partner.
When you orgasm, both male and female, lots of muscles are working in unison to pump those feel-good erogenous zones full of blood, and to pump ejaculate out. The most central muscles to controlling this pumping action during orgasm are dubbed the “PC muscles” which men can identify by stopping and starting the flow of urine. You typically don’t think that you are actually using a muscle to do that. Like all muscles, you can strengthen it, and in this case, the muscle has a direct impact on the arousal and the blood flow to the penis. Just by flexing it daily, try for 10-20 times in a row, will improve your quality of erections, allowing for you to go longer in the bedroom and be more in-tune with yourself.
Male Enhancement Supplements
If you’ve tried everything in the book and just can’t take the inconsistency of lovemaking sessions anymore, there’s no shame in trying out the blue magic pill. It will not only make you harder, keep you harder, but it will give you more confidence and more time before you reach orgasm. Even after you orgasm, it enables most men to keep going, increasing the arousal of their women greatly until they reach their big “O”.