We all experience ups and downs in our sexual drives, due to stress, health, or other things that are going on in our lives. This is completely normal. Unfortunately, there are a few things that can cause people, women especially, to lose interest in sex and have their sex drive grind to an unsatisfying halt.
What causes women to lose interest in sex?
We’ve collected a list of the most common reasons, and some ways that this loss of sexual desire can be avoided or averted.
- Low Testosterone. Yes, women can suffer from low testosterone too. Men and women both have varying levels of both estrogen and testosterone in their bodies. In women, the level of testosterone affects her sex drive. Most commonly, testosterone levels peak in a woman’s 20s and begin to steadily fall after that, vanishing almost entirely after she reaches menopause. In younger women, this can be diagnosed and treated by a doctor with carefully prescribed testosterone supplements.
- Relationship Problems. This is one of the most common causes for women losing their sex drives, though it doesn’t just refer to the relationship between the woman and her partner. It could also include relationships between the woman and her child/ren, or between her and a parent that needs to be cared for. These relationships can create an environment in which the woman in question loses her sexual desires.
- Society and Stress. There are a great number of things in a woman’s life that can cause her to lose interest in sex. Stress from jobs or family is one of the major culprits, because it’s hard to enjoy sex if you’re worried about where that next mortgage payment is coming from, or whether or not you need to start looking for care facilities for an aging member of the family. Self-confidence and esteem issues also fall under this category, usually caused by trying to compare herself to the unrealistic media expectation of beauty. If you think you’re supposed to look like a Victoria’s Secret model before you can enjoy sex, it’s going to destroy your sex drive.
- Medical Issues. There are a number of medical issues that can affect a woman’s sex drive, too many to list here. Mental illnesses are often a common culprit though, such as depression and anxiety. Physical illnesses, such as endometriosis and fibroids, that center around the reproductive system can make sex painful or uncomfortable, leading to a drop in a woman’s sex drive. These issues tend to affect her both mentally and physically, making it almost impossible to enjoy sex.
- Medications. Medications are often the most common culprit for lack of sex drive, because commonly prescribed medications, such as antidepressants or birth control pills, can and often do lower a woman’s sex drive. These will often be listed in the medication paperwork as minor side effects. In cases like this, it becomes a judgment call for the woman who is taking the medication: what is more important, my health or my sex drive. For many, health is the most important thing and they will willingly sacrifice sex in favor of a healthier outlook. This can have negative effects on her relationships though.
- Age. For women, with age comes menopause and a steady drop in their body’s hormone production. Both estrogen and testosterone production drop off, leaving her with less desire for sex. Sex after menopause can also become extremely uncomfortable if not handled correctly, because the drop in hormones also causes the woman to stop producing natural vaginal lubrication, so without using some form of lube, sex can be uncomfortable or downright painful, which often leads women to avoid it entirely. This latter issue can be treated with vaginal estrogen creams prescribed by a doctor.
Sex drive and overall sexual health is a subject that has to be approached delicately, because it can be a sensitive topic for women who, sometimes overnight, went from enjoying sex to dreading it. For men, it is often as simple as a plumbing problem, but for women it may be a much more emotional issue that has to be handled with care.
There are also not nearly as many studies done where women’s sexual health is concerned. In the 90s, nearly 5,000 studies were conducted about men’s sexual health. Less than 2,000 were conducted about the same subject for women.
Medical professionals are making great strides toward new and effective treatments for women who are suffering from a lack of sexual desire, but for now it has to be addressed on an individual case-by-case basis.