What Causes Women To Lose Their Sex Drive?

We all experience ups and downs in our sexual drives, due to stress, health, or other things that are going on in our lives. This is completely normal. Unfortunately, there are a few things that can cause people, women especially, to lose interest in sex and have their sex drive grind to an unsatisfying halt.

low-libido-in-womenWhat causes women to lose interest in sex?

We’ve collected a list of the most common reasons, and some ways that this loss of sexual desire can be avoided or averted.

  1. Low Testosterone. Yes, women can suffer from low testosterone too. Men and women both have varying levels of both estrogen and testosterone in their bodies. In women, the level of testosterone affects her sex drive. Most commonly, testosterone levels peak in a woman’s 20s and begin to steadily fall after that, vanishing almost entirely after she reaches menopause. In younger women, this can be diagnosed and treated by a doctor with carefully prescribed testosterone supplements.
  2. Relationship Problems. This is one of the most common causes for women losing their sex drives, though it doesn’t just refer to the relationship between the woman and her partner. It could also include relationships between the woman and her child/ren, or between her and a parent that needs to be cared for. These relationships can create an environment in which the woman in question loses her sexual desires.
  3. stress-problemsSociety and Stress. There are a great number of things in a woman’s life that can cause her to lose interest in sex. Stress from jobs or family is one of the major culprits, because it’s hard to enjoy sex if you’re worried about where that next mortgage payment is coming from, or whether or not you need to start looking for care facilities for an aging member of the family. Self-confidence and esteem issues also fall under this category, usually caused by trying to compare herself to the unrealistic media expectation of beauty. If you think you’re supposed to look like a Victoria’s Secret model before you can enjoy sex, it’s going to destroy your sex drive.
  4. Medical Issues. There are a number of medical issues that can affect a woman’s sex drive, too many to list here. Mental illnesses are often a common culprit though, such as depression and anxiety. Physical illnesses, such as endometriosis and fibroids, that center around the reproductive system can make sex painful or uncomfortable, leading to a drop in a woman’s sex drive. These issues tend to affect her both mentally and physically, making it almost impossible to enjoy sex.
  5. pillsMedications. Medications are often the most common culprit for lack of sex drive, because commonly prescribed medications, such as antidepressants or birth control pills, can and often do lower a woman’s sex drive. These will often be listed in the medication paperwork as minor side effects. In cases like this, it becomes a judgment call for the woman who is taking the medication: what is more important, my health or my sex drive. For many, health is the most important thing and they will willingly sacrifice sex in favor of a healthier outlook. This can have negative effects on her relationships though.
  6. Age. For women, with age comes menopause and a steady drop in their body’s hormone production. Both estrogen and testosterone production drop off, leaving her with less desire for sex. Sex after menopause can also become extremely uncomfortable if not handled correctly, because the drop in hormones also causes the woman to stop producing natural vaginal lubrication, so without using some form of lube, sex can be uncomfortable or downright painful, which often leads women to avoid it entirely. This latter issue can be treated with vaginal estrogen creams prescribed by a doctor.

good-sex-driveSex drive and overall sexual health is a subject that has to be approached delicately, because it can be a sensitive topic for women who, sometimes overnight, went from enjoying sex to dreading it. For men, it is often as simple as a plumbing problem, but for women it may be a much more emotional issue that has to be handled with care.

There are also not nearly as many studies done where women’s sexual health is concerned. In the 90s, nearly 5,000 studies were conducted about men’s sexual health. Less than 2,000 were conducted about the same subject for women.

Medical professionals are making great strides toward new and effective treatments for women who are suffering from a lack of sexual desire, but for now it has to be addressed on an individual case-by-case basis.

Is There A Relationship Between Anal Sex and Penis Size?

Anal sex is often a taboo subject for women looking to experiment in the bedroom. They are often afraid that it will hurt, that it will cause physical damage, or that like having too much vaginal sex, it can cause your anus to be stretched out. Here, we’ve collected and debunked a few myths about anal sex, penis size, and the relationship between the two.

Myth 1: 5 Inches = Small Penis.

This is one of the most common myths that have to be debunked. Between 5-7 inches is actually considered average. A study done early in 2015 concluded that after measuring the flaccid and erect penis lengths of over 15,000 men around the world, the average penis length is actually closer to 5.16 inches when erect. Only about 2.28% of the population has what would be considered an ‘abnormally small’ penis, and on the other end of the spectrum, only about 2% of the population has an abnormally large one.

no-anal-sexMyth 2: Anal Sex Always Hurts.

This is one myth that should be debunked as often and as loudly as possible. As with any other sexual technique, if it hurts, you’re doing it wrong and you could be causing a great amount of physical harm if you continue trying to push through the pain.’ Anal sex can be enjoyed without pain by adding two things: ample lubrication and clitoral stimulation.

Unlike the vagina, the anus does not produce its own natural lubrication. If you’ve ever had an Indian Burn as a child (where someone rubs the skin of your forearm until it’s red and irritated) then you know how painful unlubricated anal sex can be. If you’ve got time for cleanup afterward, consider investing in a good quality silicone based lubricant, because it doesn’t dry out as fast as its water-based counterpart. (Note: If you’re using toys in your anal play, only use water-based lubricants. Silicone based lubricants can damage some toys, making them dangerous to use.)

Adding clitoral stimulation can also help make anal sex easier and more enjoyable, because it encourages the woman to relax.

penis-sizeMyth 3: Bigger is Always Better

Bigger is most definitely not always better when it comes to anal sex, no matter what your favorite porn star may portray on the screen. In fact, average sized penises (refer to Myth 1) are actually better for anal sex.

There have been no studies done on this subject, but there are plenty of forms in which people have discussed this vary topic. While it is always going to be a matter of personal preference, the general consensus is that an average or small sized penis with a thinner girth is ideal for anal sex. It all depends on what your partner likes.

Myth 4: Don’t Mind the Speed Limit

Again, this is one of those myths where you should take everything you’ve ever seen in your favorite porn and throw it out the window. Anal sex, especially the first few times, will take patience while you and your partner figure out what works for you, and how to complete the act without damaging either one of you.

Some things you could try to help make your first anal sex encounter easier include:

  • Communicate! Make sure you keep an open line of dialog between you and your partner, so you know what is enjoyable and what hurts and can adjust accordingly.
  • Take it slow. Even if that means moving a half-centimeter at a time, do whatever it takes to make sure that anal sex isn’t painful.
  • Don’t forget the lube. We’ve mentioned this before, but it is important enough to be mentioned again. No lube = painful anal sex. Painful sex is not going to make her want to try it more than once.
  • Use condoms. Lubricated condoms can actually make anal sex more comfortable. That doesn’t mean you should neglect the lube. Condoms should be use in addition to the lube of your choice. And speaking of lube…
  • USE PLAIN LUBE! Don’t try to get fancy by picking up one of those lubes that creates heating or cooling sensations or something like that. Plain old unscented lube is best for anal sex. What might feel good for vaginal sex (i.e. KY Yours and Mine or other similar products) will probably not feel good for anal sex.


Anal sex is a great way to spice things up in the bedroom, and is often more enjoyable for men who have average or smaller than average penises.

Lasting Longer in Bed and Keeping your Woman Satisfied

sexual-satisfactionMen and women can have vastly different experiences in the bedroom if either partner is only about reaching their own climax, rather than making sure both of you get there. Unfortunately, this problem lies mostly on the man, as it is just biologically simpler to reach orgasm. This puts men under pressure in society to not be that “two-pump chump” that gets laughed at in the movies. How you prevent yourself from orgasming before she does is part art and part psychology.

The go-to technique, of course is to just bombard your mind with unsexual thoughts and imagery, like sports scenery, your wrinkly old boss, or just staring off into a corner of the room. This distraction technique can definitely work, but it’s merely a temporary solution that only makes you extend the inevitable, rather than focusing on making sure your partner is pleased. Here are some better tips to keep you going and make your partner get there too.

Variations in Strokes

If your sex game just involves giving it to her as hard and strong as possible before you tap out and if she doesn’t cum before you, then “oh well”—you need to step it up. All great lovers have a mix of strokes that keep them from climaxing too early, while delivering the best combination of short, deep, fast, slow, and hard strokes to give her maximum variety.

Sure, some women prefer it hard and fast when they can get it, but that doesn’t mean they won’t enjoy a longer session that is setup to insure they reach the top of their climax every time.

be-a-sexy-manThe art of the Tease

A highly underrated aspect of having sex is creating a build-up of lust that can improve any man’s sex life, no matter how poor they think they are in the sack.

You know what it’s like to have a girl present herself in the most ridiculously sexy dress, seduce you with her eyes, lips, and body language, and drive you mad with dirty talk leading up to the end of the night. Some women have that power to make any man cum almost instantly.

Well, men can have that same effect on women, even if they’re not Brad Pitt.

It’s all about confidence and the art of teasing her all the way into the bedroom and keeping it going until she begs you to send her over the edge.

sexual-staminaTrain Yourself

The best way to get better at something is through practice, right?

Well, when it comes to sex, you are best off masturbating in between sessions to practice your stamina. It might sound dumb to the average guy out there, but challenging yourself to last longer during your own jack off sessions is a way to create a habit out of staying hard longer and preventing yourself from orgasming until you are ready.

Of course, it sounds easier than it is in practice. You are used to simply getting yourself to climax as fast as possible because porn viewing is always something that is difficult to do without chance of interruption for most people. When you have the opportunity to have a long, interrupted masturbation session, use this to bring yourself to the edge of climax and just stop there and keep going again for as many times as you can, you will see an improvement in stamina and better orgasms for both you and your partner.

Hidden Muscles

When you orgasm, both male and female, lots of muscles are working in unison to pump those feel-good erogenous zones full of blood, and to pump ejaculate out. The most central muscles to controlling this pumping action during orgasm are dubbed the “PC muscles” which men can identify by stopping and starting the flow of urine. You typically don’t think that you are actually using a muscle to do that. Like all muscles, you can strengthen it, and in this case, the muscle has a direct impact on the arousal and the blood flow to the penis. Just by flexing it daily, try for 10-20 times in a row, will improve your quality of erections, allowing for you to go longer in the bedroom and be more in-tune with yourself.

Male Enhancement Supplements

If you’ve tried everything in the book and just can’t take the inconsistency of lovemaking sessions anymore, there’s no shame in trying out the blue magic pill. It will not only make you harder, keep you harder, but it will give you more confidence and more time before you reach orgasm. Even after you orgasm, it enables most men to keep going, increasing the arousal of their women greatly until they reach their big “O”.