Online dating is used by people from all walks of life, and of every age. If you have children and are looking to meet your soul mate, it can be hard to find the right person to share your life with. Looking online for that person, on a site such as the eHarmony dating website in Australia, can often be the answer.
If you have kids, you shouldn’t be shy about it. Children don’t have to define you – they shouldn’t necessarily be the first thing you talk about on your profile – but neither should you be embarrassed about them. Online dating attracts people of all ages, with all kinds of experiences, so don’t worry that people might ignore you for it – they won’t. And being upfront about your status saves a surprise later on in the dating process.
Find the time
It might seem like an impossible task when parenting is such a full-time job (and more), but it’s worth creating a block of free time for yourself. If you make it to a first date, trying to squeeze things between picking kids up from after-school clubs or having to dash off early to change nappies may not give the best first impression.
A fellow adult will, of course, understand that children come first. But they will also (quite reasonably) hope that you have time in your life for a relationship too. Find a reliable babysitter and give yourself an evening off.
Talk about ‘grown-up’ things
Your children are obviously important to you. But avoid talking incessantly about them. Small details about what your youngest had for breakfast or the silly way little Bobby says a word might be interesting to you, but it may not be to others. The person you’re dating is interested in you, after all. Stick to adult conversation topics as much as possible. You may find, having spent all day with kids, you’re glad to have a more mature chat.
Like any form of dating, online dating can sometimes take time to get results, and you may find yourself getting frustrated or impatient in meeting people who aren’t quite right. It’s important to stay positive and remember the old adage about fish in the sea. You can even narrow your search by trying online dating for those with Christian beliefs, for example.
And it’s always worth bearing in mind that the statistics don’t lie – one in five people who use online dating to find ‘the one’ have gone on to marry someone they met on the internet. Take a look on the eHarmony Australia Google+ page to find out more about its successes. It’s a method proven to work – you just need persistence and patience.