One of the many difficult decisions that come with getting a divorce is deciding what to do with your engagement ring. The knee-jerk reaction is simple: sell it and move on. But divorce is far from simple, and many women find it hard to let go of their ring long after their marriage is over. Here are some suggestions to help you decide what to do with your wedding ring in the aftermath of a divorce.
Have the diamonds reset into a new piece of jewelry: The majority of married women wear their engagement rings every day, so it is understandable that many women remain attached to the ring, even in the event of divorce. However the ring will trigger many memories of your marriage, and continuing to wear it will only make it that much harder to move on, as well as scaring off any new suitors that come along. If you’re particularly attached to your diamond ring, consider having it re-cut into a new piece of jewelry, to signify the new chapter in your life. Many places that sell diamonds also re-set them, making it easy for you to turn your existing ring into a new piece of jewelry you’ll love just as much.
Trade it in for a right hand ring: Just because you’re no longer married doesn’t mean that you can’t wear a diamond ring. A right hand ring is a sign of a woman’s independence and good fortune in life. Trading or selling your old engagement ring for a new diamond ring can be healing. While looking at your old ring might have dredged up painful memories, the new ring can be a symbol of hope, strength, and the bright future you have ahead of you.
Sell it and use the money for legal fees: Divorce is expensive. Between legal fees and the cost of two separate households, it can definitely be difficult to maintain steady finances. You can sell diamonds for a lot of money, which can go a long way towards paying off post-divorce debt. Selling your engagement ring can be a lot easier if you know that the money is going towards something necessary.
Sell it and use the money to treat yourself and your kids: Divorce is hard for everyone, but it is especially hard for children. Children often have a difficult time processing the new family structure. Spend the money, from your ring, on bonding activities with your kids. It will be a great investment in their mental health. A vacation could be a great way for all of you to de-stress and reconnect. There are also many different activities and classes designed for mothers and their children, such as cooking or art, and they can be a great way to strengthen your bond and help them adjust following the divorce.
Your engagement ring is a symbol of your marriage, and for many women parting with it is not easy. However revamping, trading, or selling your ring is a crucial part of the healing process and will help give you the strength you need to start moving on.
Ellen Jackson studied English Literature at the University of California, Los Angeles. She is currently living in Los Angeles and working as a freelance writer.